Motherhood.

I've decided to come back to that topic that I promised i'd come back to. Motherhood.

Being a parent is probably one of the hardest things I've ever taken on. If i had to put into words what a day looks like as a mother, I honestly do not think I could. Its just too much. 

So, thats just it. That is the whole reason I want to talk about Motherhood. Because it is so dang hard. Am I right? Please dont tell me I'm the only one saying "can I get an amen over here." I struggle day after day to do the very best I possibly can to provide for all my childrens needs. I surely do not cover them all and I just call on Jesus for the rest. 

If motherhood is so hard, then why do we as mothers go against each other ALL. THE. TIME?

Bottle or breast.

cloth or disposable.

baby wearer or not. 

organic/non-organic.

stay at home or working mom.

co-sleeper or crib.

vaccinated or not (not even gonna go there: HOT TOPIC THESE DAYS!)

I've heard it all.

"She really could have breastfed if she just stuck it out."

I cannot believe she's letting her baby eat that."

"Did you see how dirty that baby was?"

"Her hair is always done, how does she have time for her kids?"

"Are they going to co-sleep with their kids until they're 10?"

I've said it all. 

I've judged and been judged. 

And the biggest thing I've learned as a mom is..

There is a 90% chance that you love your children just as much as I love mine and you are truly doing what you believe is best for them.

(I do realize in this crazy world there are exceptions.)

So this is my open letter to my fellow sisters who are on this amazing journey of Motherhood. Its partially to apologize for the times I've been quicker to judge than to help. I am just as sleep deprived and stressed out as you are (well, at least my new baby moms or moms of crazy toddlers)! I am challenged at times, overwhelmed and even feel defeated. 

This is also to remind you that really, I am no better, the mom who breastfeeds is no better, or who works or stays at home . 

Motherhood is not a competition.  If you ask me, its a reminder of just how much we need 1-Christ and 2-each other. 

I pray that the Lords Joy give you strength in the moments when you're  about to give up.

 When you've just had it with your 2 year old and their fits. 

When you've done all in your power to teach them and they still dont listen. 

When that newborn baby cant seem to be consoled. 

When you feel judged for the way you parent. 

When you feel abandoned by your spouse/significant other.

When you feel like you've failed as a Mom.
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My most recent reminder is:

I am not in this alone. 

Nehemiah 8:10b

for the joy of the LORD is your strength! 

Be blessed- Briana